Make Life Work: Repair the Relationship with Yourself

What areas of your life are working well? Career? Finances?

Relationships? Health?

When life works you enjoy fulfillment, happiness, and a sense of well being. "I know how to do this thing called life, and I'm doing it well."

Areas that do not work create stress, fear, and anxiety. We loose sleep. Self-talk quickly degenerates into, "I'm a loser. I can't do anything right. Nothing will ever change." How can you rebuild inside and have life humming again?

Five Tips for Inner Repair

1.Pick one challenging area

How do you feel about yourself? What is your inner self-talk in this area? Are you judging yourself, someone else, the world? What do you fear others are saying about you?

2.Let go

Observe your thoughts and feelings.

Adopt the position of neutrality. Pretend you are scientist watching a specimen under a microscope. Approach your behavior, thoughts and feelings as "Oh, that's interesting."Do not assign meaning.

3.Stop taking life personally

Take a nice deep breath and repeat, "This is not about me.I don't need to control this." Entertain the thought that everything is FOR you, not against you.

4.Accept your feelings

Make them OK. Feelings are energy, not enemies. Stop judging your feelings and allow them to be.

5.Make different choices

Is there a different choice I could make in this situation? What outer step supports that new behavior?

Adjust your inner lens slightly and you have a different view that creates lasting change. Practice new choices with patience and soon your career, marriage, finances and health will work for you and life will be rich in abundance and loving.

Rebecca Skeele, Author, Life Coach, Professional Speaker travels throughout the country presenting her unique approach to cocreating heaven on earth. She holds a Masters in Spiritual Counseling and Spiritual Science and has been working with individuals since 1990. Rebecca's book, You Can Make It Heaven: How to Enrich Your Life with Abundance and Loving is a cocreator's manual for envisioning and living a personal heaven. Her new course, Becoming a Spiritual Scientist: A Course for Cocreators shows how to give up our story-based reality and begin living intentionally. Visit http://www.makeitheaven.com to learn more about Rebecca, her work and her professional talks and workshops.

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