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Inspirations: Some Other Things Ive Noticed Along the Way So Far
Some people live in and talk about the past so much it's as if they are "planning for the past." The "I'm an adult victim/survivor of (fill in the blank)" culture does a great disservice to the possibility of change. There comes a time when you have to give up the identity of victim/survivor and decide who you will be now and in the future. Here are 5 emotional states that can change your life: disgust, commitment, desire, decision and resolve. Some people confuse foolish stubbornness with determination. Would you hire a carpenter or plumber who had only one tool in their toolbox? Of course not. And yet we often approach life situations with an equally limited supply of tools. It was Abraham Maslow that said "if the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail." Have you noticed that common sense seems to be less and less common? Sometimes I think God got it backwards. So much would be different if we could be parents before we were children. Parenting is like eating with chopsticks, playing golf, or driving a car. It looks so easy until you try it. Be careful of hindsight. While it may be 20/20, what might have been is not necessarily what would have been. There is no such thing as "no-fault divorce." If the two greatest and most common phobias are flying and public speaking, I wonder what would happen if you had to give a speech on a plane? I don't know anyone who hasn't thought of a great idea for a product or service and then see someone else make lots of money with it years later. So next time you get a great idea, put it into action. I have just one question for husbands (or wives for that matter) who don't believe in marriage counseling: "Do you believe more in dovorce?" People who talk on cell phones in a movie theater should be made to clean up the floor after the movie ends, using only their tongue and bare hands. The more I do this counseling thing, the more I realize two things: I'm really just a coach, and there is so very much I do not know. Wouldn't it be cool if teachers coming out of college were treated like star athletes? You know, a draft, multimillion dollar contracts and signing bonuses...... Most parents of teenagers have had the experience of playing "human alarm clock", having to try and wake up their teen for school. Research shows that adolescents need more sleep than adults. There could be several factors involved in your teen being too tired to get up. One possibility many parents don't think to check is that somewhere between bedtime and morning their kid has snuck out of the house and then snuck back in. Check for exit signs above the windows. Visit SecretsofGreatRelationships.com for tips and tools for creating and growing a great relationship. You can also subscribe to our f*r*e*e 10 day e-program on how to enrich your relationship today, from relationship coach and expert Jeff Herring.
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